BIG REPUTATION | I SAID WHAT I SAID

The tea is hotter in print

Pride.com asked me to break down the whole “transmaxxing” mess - why it’s harmful, why the talking points are bullshit, & why trans folks deserve better than fear-mongering headlines & Reddit conspiracies.

Spoiler: trans people aren’t a trend, a fetish, or a political pawn. They’re real humans with real lives, & they deserve safety, dignity, & autonomy. Always.

A new take on coming out (that actually makes sense)

I talked with LGBTQNation about how “coming out” often feels like confessing to a crime, when really, it should be about choosing who gets access to your truth. This piece dives into boundaries, agency, & reclaiming your own fucking narrative.

If you’ve ever wished the world would stop making your identity feel like a Big Scary Announcement, this one hits.

The world is heavy: here’s how to hold yourself gently

Wondermind brought me in to talk about the emotional load queer folks carry, especially in a political climate that keeps trying us. I offered reminders, grounding tools, & a big ol’ dose of “you’re not broken, the world is exhausting.”

If you need a moment of breath, softness, & solidarity, this is your article.

When bad policy hurts real people

Becker’s asked me to speak on the human fallout of anti-trans legislation: the fear, the medical barriers, the emotional cost, & the real danger these bans create. I focused on the mental health impact and the way politics disrupts safe, affirming care.

If you want a clear picture of what these laws do to actual humans, start here.

Supporting kids without making it weird

Care.com brought me in to talk about how kids explore gender, which, spoiler alert, is wayyyy less dramatic than adults make it out to be. I explained how curiosity is normal, how expression is healthy, & how the real danger comes from grown-ups projecting fear onto something a child is simply trying on. Kids aren’t confused, they’re discovering.

If you want a calm, grounded guide on how to show up for gender-expansive kids without spiraling, this is the one.

When the system strains under the weight of bans

In this interview, I zoomed out to look at the broader fallout of anti-trans policies: how they overload clinicians, jam up already stressed systems, & create ripple effects that hit every patient trying to access care. These bans don’t just target trans folks (though they absolutely do that too); they choke the entire system.

If you want the big-picture, “here’s how all the pieces break” version, this article delivers it.